Choose a New Road
The biggest challenge that we face is how do we not get stuck. So often when life gets stressful and we get overwhelmed, we freeze. We lose sight of our options. That is why it is so important to take a step back. Take a breath. Sleep on it. Talk about it with a […]
How to Fight the Good Fight
Whenever you live closely with someone, things will not always be peaceful. Fighting and anger in small doses are normal and healthy parts of relationships. The bigger question is what do you do with that anger? How do you fight? Do you tear each other apart in a wild free-for-all? Do you say whatever comes […]
Stay Focused
People tend to be goal-oriented. We decide what we want, where we want to be and we focus on it. But sometimes this serves as a detriment. “I am still not where I want to be.” “We are still having to work hard on this.” We get discouraged and are tempted to give up, feeling […]
50 Shades of Horrible
Last summer I finally read 50 Shades of Grey. The decision to take the plunge after resisting for so long came about as an “I will if you will” bargain with my friend. With the movie about to hit theaters this weekend, here are my thoughts. Please note that this is based only on the first book. […]
The Top Ways to Get Your Partner to Do What You Want
Here are the top 5 6 ways to get your partner to do what you want: 1. Know exactly what you want. This is critical. If you don’t know what you want, then how can your partner? It is important that you know what you are asking for and to be able to be specific. […]
Key To A Peaceful Relationship
Why Sex Therapy?
I began my career in 2000 as a psychotherapist working at a group home with pregnant and parenting teenagers who had been removed from their homes by the Department of Child and Family Services. It was a given in this context that relationships, sex, sexuality and gender were going to be significant topics of discussion. […]
Juggling Act
One of the things that seems to be a consistent challenge today is figuring out how to juggle all of the responsibilities that come with living in our 21st-century world. In trying to take care of our families’ emotional, physical, financial and spiritual needs, we are consumed with work, picking up and dropping off kids […]
Touch
A couple of weeks ago, I wrote about the importance of spending time together. Today, I want to talk about how important touch is to a relationship. When I say touch, I mean holding hands, hugging, rubbing your partners shoulders, etc. I mean kissing, both quickly and at length. I mean sex. Quick touches are […]
Book Review: The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work by John Gottman, Ph.D. & Nan Silver
What can make a marriage work is surprisingly simple. Happily married couples aren’t smarter, richer, or more psychologically astute than others. But in their day-to-day lives, they have hit upon a dynamic that keeps their negative thoughts and feelings about each other (which all couples have) from overwhelming their positive ones. They have what I […]