50 Shades of Horrible
Last summer I finally read 50 Shades of Grey. The decision to take the plunge after resisting for so long came about as an “I will if you will” bargain with my friend. With the movie about to hit theaters this weekend, here are my thoughts. Please note that this is based only on the first book. […]
Why Sex Therapy?
I began my career in 2000 as a psychotherapist working at a group home with pregnant and parenting teenagers who had been removed from their homes by the Department of Child and Family Services. It was a given in this context that relationships, sex, sexuality and gender were going to be significant topics of discussion. […]
Touch
A couple of weeks ago, I wrote about the importance of spending time together. Today, I want to talk about how important touch is to a relationship. When I say touch, I mean holding hands, hugging, rubbing your partners shoulders, etc. I mean kissing, both quickly and at length. I mean sex. Quick touches are […]
The Secret
Change is hard. No one wants to do it. We want things to work in our lives, but we don’t want to be the ones to have to change. Or we don’t want to admit that we are the ones who should change. We want our partners to be at fault. The ones who hold […]
Put the Chemistry Back Into a “Sexless Marriage”
A couple of years ago, an article appeared entitled When Sex Leaves the Marriage on the NY Times Website. In it, the author spoke with a sociologist who studies the sexless marriage. A sexless marriage is one in which a couple rarely or never has sex, specifically intercourse. This can be for a variety of […]
Self-Help Favorites
I was recently asked which are my favorite self-help books to find healing. So I perused my shelves and pulled out the ones that I have found most helpful for myself and the clients that I have worked with over the years. Here are the top 6: 1. The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work […]